Love Up!!! {Romance in Marriage}

Your marriage is profoundly unique. There are many things we do – - both for, and to each other, as husband and wife, that we do only for and to each other, and for nobody else.

Touching is one of the most immediate and practical examples of what I mean, for the way we touch, and the frequency with which we touch our Beloved husband or wife, must be unique to him/her.

Upper Persuasion

• Kiss your Beloved on the lips, in the mouth, on the neck, and any/everywhere else you both feel comfortable!!! Kissing of wives by husbands has sometimes jokingly been called ‘an upper persuasion for a lower invasion’.

Love Lubricant

• Don’t let your Beloved pass by you more than twice or thrice without your reaching out for him or her, and touching – not roughly, but gently or playfully.

First to Touch

• When you are or have been quarreling for any reason, be the first to touch. Quickly make up, and make love (or prepare to do so later, when it’s OK for you both).

Different Strokes

• Making love is not (necessarily) just bouncing on top of your Beloved; different times and situations definitely require/warrant distinctly different approaches – sometimes vigorous, sometimes gentle, sometimes playful, sometimes passionate, but always considerate.

• Most importantly, loving communication – - attentively listening to, and talking with your Beloved – - is one of the most important demonstrations of your loving each other, and is the vital preliminary to the non-verbal acts of sexual intercourse. Harsh, nasty or ‘put-down’ remarks from either one of you – - minutes, hours or sometimes even days before – - can actually hamper or kill – for a time – the love life between husband and wife, and should be studiously avoided.

And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted,
forgiving one another,
even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you. [Ephesians 4:32]

The Bed Bath

• If your Beloved returns home tired, exhausted or ’stressed out’ from a tension-laden day, or transit, or whatever – - learn to be like the sons of Issachar: read the times and seasons.

For example, if your Beloved is tired, and even ’scenting’ or ‘funky’, and you are the meticulous or nose-sensitive one, don’t nag or complain; help your Beloved to disrobe, have him/her stretch out on the bed or floor or couch; place a clean towel or heavy cloth beneath your Beloved’s ‘bottom’, and – - using warm or tepid water with a face towel or wash cloth – - give your Beloved a bed bath, a good wash where it counts, especially around the genitalia, and maybe even around the armpits!

But wherever it is, your approach and your touch matter most.

Talk it through, nicely and respectfully.

Usually, though not always, the bed bath is preliminary to good love making, but what is most important is that tender act of maintenance so unique to marital love.

Subtle Touch

• There’s a thing called ’subtle touch’ that can be more titillating and even more comforting and relieving than the usual: it involves light brushing up against your Beloved, in passing, in the presence of unaware others, or just as you like it.

What’s in a Name?

There should be a name or names that you call your Beloved, and that your Beloved calls you, which are reserved for each other alone.

Likewise, feel free to give names to each other’s favourite parts of the body, from private parts, to breasts and buttocks.

These secret names help to build greater intimacy between husband and wife, enhance fun, and further bond the two of you as lovers and best friends.

Conclusion

No matter how close you think or feel yourselves to be, you can always become closer, and that is one of the best parts of the special mystery GOD created, called marriage.

Romance in Marriage is far more than just sex, it is the attitude and the environment of mutual love. Please remember: Loving is Love

LOVE UP!